Haven Counselling and Coaching

Purpose and Meaning

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how


We live in an age that stresses being happy over living a meaningful life and yet the more we chase after happiness, the more it escapes us.

Research has shown that when we seek to live a meaningful life that’s true to who we are, we are more likely to experience long term and more stable wellbeing. When we spend all our efforts on chasing immediate bursts of happiness (while trying to avoid as much suffering as possible), we are more likely to experience life as a disappointing rollercoaster ride.

Having a sense of ‘meaning in life’ involves three vital components:

1) the feeling that your life matters,

2) that it makes sense


3) that it has purpose.

A loss of any (or all) of these feelings about our lives can leave us lost, deflated and empty.

Counselling can help you with your sense of meaning in life. By listening very carefully to you and talking through your experience of life, I can help you notice what really matters to you. By hearing your story, and helping you really hear your own story, we can work together to help you figure out how to pull your life together in a more meaningful direction. When that happens, it can often be the beginning of other changes in mood, feelings, thinking and behaviour.

If you’ve got any questions at all, or you’re wondering if I can work with you on another issue, please don’t hesitate to ask. You can call on 01329 661926 and leave a message if you’re happy for me to call you back or send me an enquiry by clicking on ‘Enquiry’. Alternatively, you could book an initial session via the website.