Haven Counselling and Coaching

Thrive: Finding Fulfillment in Life

“He who has a why to live for can bear almost any how


We live in an age that stresses being happy over living a meaningful life and yet the more we chase after happiness, the more it escapes us.

Research has shown that when we seek to live a meaningful life that’s true to who we are, we are more likely to experience long term and more stable wellbeing. When we spend all our efforts on chasing immediate bursts of happiness (while trying to avoid as much suffering as possible), we are more likely to experience life as disappointing and frustrating.

To thrive in life we all need to work at getting the basics in place: a sense of physical and emotional safety,  a sense of secure-enough connection in our relationships and a healthy and realistic self-esteem. With these in place, we are then more likley to be willing to explore, try fresh experiences and live more from a place of growth than need. We can start to flourish and live a meaningful life. 

Having a sense of ‘meaning in life’ involves three vital components:

1) the feeling that your life matters,

2) that it makes sense


3) that it has purpose.

A loss of any (or all) of these feelings about our lives can leave us lost, deflated and empty.

Counselling can help you with your sense of meaning in life. It can help you shift from just ‘getting by’ to ‘expanding your potential’.  By listening very carefully to you and talking through your experience of life, I can help you notice what really matters to you. By hearing your story, and helping you really hear your own story, we can work together to help you figure out how to pull your life together in a more meaningful direction. When that happens, it can often be the beginning of other changes in mood, feelings, thinking and behaviour. Life can become an adventure again.

If you’ve got any questions at all, or you’re wondering if I can work with you on another issue, please don’t hesitate to ask. You can  send me an enquiry by emailing me at havencounsellor@protonmail.com