Haven Counselling and Coaching

Anxiety and Stress

While stress and anxiety are part and parcel of life, things can build up too much and paralyse our ability to cope. We may feel as though we’re frozen ‘like a rabbit in the headlights’ or like we just need to give up and run away (flight mode). Alternatively, we may find we’re so used to high levels of anxiety and stress that we find it very hard to wind down—we’re always in ‘fight’ mode.

High levels of anxiety over extended periods of time will often have a negative effect on our physical health. It can lead to a growing fear of facing the very things we may need to deal with (e.g. finances, relationship problems, social anxiety, sexual difficulties etc.), narrowing our freedom and ability to function. It can seriously disrupt our ability to sleep, which in turn can raise anxiety levels further.

Ongoing high-anxiety levels can make it increasingly tempting to resort to alcohol, drugs or food misuse to try to alleviate the symptoms. Heightened anxiety can also place a lot of strain on relationships.

What can I do to help?

I can help you explore strategies that might help you begin to bring anxieties under greater control while also exploring possible causes because it’s not always obvious what is making us anxious. No two people are the same and my way of working will respect your unique situation and history. Some of our work may involve managing of thoughts (cognition), some may involve helping you manage triggers of unwanted behaviour.

A significant part may be helping you to manage the emotion itself because it is very common for people to become anxious about their anxiety in a kind of ‘vicious circle’. Therapy may help you to weaken and break the vicious cycle step-by-step.

If you’ve got any questions at all, or you’re wondering if I can work with you on another issue, please don’t hesitate to ask. You can  send me an enquiry by emailing me at havencounsellor@protonmail.com